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Monday, September 29, 2008

News from our trip to San Francisco

So last week my husband and I completed something we'd started 11 years earlier — that is, we got the one thing our 1997 marriage ceremony lacked: a marriage license.

Yes, folks, we had ourselves a San Francisco gay wedding. (Surprise!)

Now, since we'd already had a nice big wedding, and this one was basically a formality, we kept it small and simple, and we let it get silly. The ceremony was performed by one of my oldest friends (who, it turns out, is authorized to marry people in California), dressed as the Green Lantern. Another old friend was the witness, and a friend of theirs took pictures.

I haven't mentioned this event to much of anyone yet, because I really do think of it as just a long-delayed formality.

So anyway, there it is: we now have a little legal recognition. The marriage won't be recognized by our home state, nor our country (not any time soon). But it is valid in California, at least for the time being (vote no on prop 8!). And it would be recognized in some other states, and countries. So that means something to me.

Anyway, I'm writing a similar storyline for Finn and Charlie. Some real elements will make their way into this story, and others will be made up.


posted by Tony at 11:02 PM


Blogger gems and purls said...


9/30/2008 12:07 AM

Blogger Juliet said...

Congratulations! It's also a good excuse to remember your Chicago wedding again - lots of fun!

9/30/2008 11:19 AM

Blogger gems and purls said...

I'm also thinking, I've gotten awfully lazy since moving to the happy liberal bubble of Portland. When I was surrounded by conservative freaks, I fought like hell for gay marriage. It's an accepted wish here; I've barely had to think or argue for it. I apologize for dropping the ball.

10/02/2008 11:14 PM


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